Comments on: Debate: What is the Most Important Trait to Instill in Children? http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/important-traits-to-teach/ Revolutionizing Education - Transforming Mankind Wed, 04 Aug 2010 02:51:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Ed Gagnon http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/important-traits-to-teach/#comment-2394 Ed Gagnon Fri, 15 Jan 2010 18:15:42 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=3933#comment-2394 The Value of Values <a href="http://www.strategicpublishinggroup.com/title/thevalueofvalues.html" rel="nofollow">www.strategicpublishinggroup.com/title/thevalueof...</a> People place greater emphasis on personal ambitions, than they do on the establishment of values within their children. By default, parents are teaching their children that values are secondary to making a living. “The Value of Values” is a must read for every parent concerned about the direction of our society and the challenges our children will be facing. Ed states: “we have three possible choices”. 1)“Do nothing different than that which we have been doing. Complacently accept things as they are and will be.” 2)“Hope that our leaders will guide society in the proper direction despite the fact that they place values second to ambitions.” 3)“Accept our personal responsibility to our children. Accept that real change is not passed down from leaders, but rather, it is driven up from the people. Accept the fact that we each have within us the ability to make things different for generations to come.” “The choices we make today will determine the society of tomorrow.” The Value of Values
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People place greater emphasis on personal ambitions, than they do on the establishment of values within their children. By default, parents are teaching their children that values are secondary to making a living.

“The Value of Values” is a must read for every parent concerned about the direction of our society and the challenges our children will be facing.

Ed states: “we have three possible choices”.
1)“Do nothing different than that which we have been doing. Complacently accept things as they are and will be.”
2)“Hope that our leaders will guide society in the proper direction despite the fact that they place values second to ambitions.”
3)“Accept our personal responsibility to our children. Accept that real change is not passed down from leaders, but rather, it is driven up from the people. Accept the fact that we each have within us the ability to make things different for generations to come.”

“The choices we make today will determine the society of tomorrow.”

]]> By: tara http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/important-traits-to-teach/#comment-2342 tara Sun, 03 Jan 2010 18:48:13 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=3933#comment-2342 i think that selflessness is the most important trait to teach children. but there are so many other important traits and they all are important. i think that selflessness is the most important trait to teach children. but there are so many other important traits and they all are important.

]]> By: Irene Tortolini http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/important-traits-to-teach/#comment-2326 Irene Tortolini Thu, 31 Dec 2009 16:46:09 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=3933#comment-2326 You CAN teach them happiness -- or at least the tools for attaining and keeping Happiness. The first is to create an awareness of how they are feeling at all time -- since feelings are the body's alarm system which alert you to when you are dwelling upon a "negative" thought. The second is teach them how to shift that thought to a more pleasant thought. There is a great book out there entitled Exercises In Happiness by Patrick MacMillan. You can read more about how he teaches happiness at www.Kidscandoanything.com You CAN teach them happiness -- or at least the tools for attaining and keeping Happiness. The first is to create an awareness of how they are feeling at all time -- since feelings are the body's alarm system which alert you to when you are dwelling upon a "negative" thought. The second is teach them how to shift that thought to a more pleasant thought. There is a great book out there entitled Exercises In Happiness by Patrick MacMillan. You can read more about how he teaches happiness at http://www.Kidscandoanything.com

]]> By: Greg Bradshaw http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/important-traits-to-teach/#comment-2280 Greg Bradshaw Thu, 17 Dec 2009 01:38:21 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=3933#comment-2280 I feel that the most important thing to teach them is to listen to there emotions, their gut feelings, and to then use them to navigate through life.To appreciate what they have is a tough one but necessary. To be in a state of appreciation is something we could show them as an example. After all everything we do is the example they are getting, their programing. So whatever we want them to be we have to become it first. I feel that the most important thing to teach them is to listen to there emotions, their gut feelings, and to then use them to navigate through life.To appreciate what they have is a tough one but necessary. To be in a state of appreciation is something we could show them as an example. After all everything we do is the example they are getting, their programing. So whatever we want them to be we have to become it first.

]]> By: Jasmine http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/important-traits-to-teach/#comment-2271 Jasmine Mon, 14 Dec 2009 17:48:21 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=3933#comment-2271 I decided to post a comment, and scrolled down. Reading Adiaha's comment, I find I agree with it 101%. Children need to know that they are loved, valued and respected by those around them, and they need to learn to love , value and respect themselves. They are(as we all are), divine creations from the Creator, and must be treated as such. As parents we often inadvertently break down their self-esteem, which leads to a lack of self-confidence, and this is how they grow up to have no self-worth. I know, because as a child, I experienced this. Thanks for your blog, it is really good. I decided to post a comment, and scrolled down. Reading Adiaha's comment, I find I agree with it 101%. Children need to know that they are loved, valued and respected by those around them, and they need to learn to love , value and respect themselves. They are(as we all are), divine creations from the Creator, and must be treated as such. As parents we often inadvertently break down their self-esteem, which leads to a lack of self-confidence, and this is how they grow up to have no self-worth. I know, because as a child, I experienced this. Thanks for your blog, it is really good.

]]> By: Darel http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/important-traits-to-teach/#comment-2266 Darel Sun, 13 Dec 2009 19:08:20 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=3933#comment-2266 Great post. I say "Trust Your Inner Guidance" Great post. I say "Trust Your Inner Guidance"

]]> By: Ursula http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/important-traits-to-teach/#comment-2265 Ursula Sun, 13 Dec 2009 09:52:10 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=3933#comment-2265 Hi Melissa, Of course there is more than one important trait. In my opinion integrity is one of the most important values. Integrity implies being true to yourself but also being sincere and fair towards others. How often are children taught not to listen to their own inner voice / intuition (because of course grown-ups know so much better) and so to distrust themselves? Moreover they might conclude from that that they do not really count. How often are children taught not to be sincere or to give in to avoid conflict or other unpleasant consequences? This does not mean that we should be rude or do what we think is right - no matter what. We can share our opinion emphatically and respectfully (see Marshall Rosenberg's books) and I blieve this world would be a much better place if there were more people who walk their talk. Another essential trait is the ability to be really aware and conscious in the present moment so we truly live our lives instead of our lives being run by others or by circumstances. This happens so much more easily when we are in our minds, being run by old programs/memories or by fear of the future. Kind regards Ursula Hi Melissa,

Of course there is more than one important trait.

In my opinion integrity is one of the most important values. Integrity implies being true to yourself but also being sincere and fair towards others.

How often are children taught not to listen to their own inner voice / intuition (because of course grown-ups know so much better) and so to distrust themselves? Moreover they might conclude from that that they do not really count.

How often are children taught not to be sincere or to give in to avoid conflict or other unpleasant consequences? This does not mean that we should be rude or do what we think is right - no matter what. We can share our opinion emphatically and respectfully (see Marshall Rosenberg's books) and I blieve this world would be a much better place if there were more people who walk their talk.

Another essential trait is the ability to be really aware and conscious in the present moment so we truly live our lives instead of our lives being run by others or by circumstances. This happens so much more easily when we are in our minds, being run by old programs/memories or by fear of the future.

Kind regards

Ursula

]]> By: Elizabeth Burke http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/important-traits-to-teach/#comment-2263 Elizabeth Burke Sat, 12 Dec 2009 23:02:13 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=3933#comment-2263 Hi Melissa, thanks for your invitation to see your blog. This topic was on the table today with my children. I have two boys, 8 and 10 years old, and coincidentially we were talking today regarding how they felt since their best freind always gets from his parents the latest toys, whatever there is. Somehow it is difficult now-a-days, to make children understand that the most important thing you can give them is an healthy environment, sharing with their friends playing ball or any other game where they can, run, laugh, instead of being in front of a monitor playing. I have spoken with several parents and they have this same problem trying to make their children understand that there is more valuable things to share with others without so many playstation, nintendo, .... devices, which somehow have separated families since each one is playing but in a virtual world and when they turn around they are totally alone. So as I mentioned the most important trait to instill in children is how to appreciate and value the most important things in life such as a good friendship, based on love, principles, respect, loyalty and never ever to discriminate anyone regarding their condition. And as I also agree 100% with Adiaha, children must be taught good manners and being polite to their fellow humans everywhere. I believe that with a lot of LOVE and DEDICATION we can help them be great persons, since they are very smart and very eager to learn things. Ely Hi Melissa, thanks for your invitation to see your blog.

This topic was on the table today with my children. I have two boys, 8 and 10 years old, and coincidentially we were talking today regarding how they felt since their best freind always gets from his parents the latest toys, whatever there is.

Somehow it is difficult now-a-days, to make children understand that the most important thing you can give them is an healthy environment, sharing with their friends playing ball or any other game where they can, run, laugh, instead of being in front of a monitor playing.

I have spoken with several parents and they have this same problem trying to make their children understand that there is more valuable things to share with others without so many playstation, nintendo, .... devices, which somehow have separated families since each one is playing but in a virtual world and when they turn around they are totally alone.

So as I mentioned the most important trait to instill in children is how to appreciate and value the most important things in life such as a good friendship, based on love, principles, respect, loyalty and never ever to discriminate anyone regarding their condition.

And as I also agree 100% with Adiaha, children must be taught good manners and being polite to their fellow humans everywhere.

I believe that with a lot of LOVE and DEDICATION we can help them be great persons, since they are very smart and very eager to learn things.

Ely

]]> By: Martha http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/important-traits-to-teach/#comment-2262 Martha Sat, 12 Dec 2009 21:34:55 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=3933#comment-2262 I agree with Adiaha but in a different order. I believe if children learn respect first, respect for themselves and respect for others then the next important step will be easier, To love themselves and love those around them. Value would be a side effect of the first two, and the beautiful world that they envision they will create. I agree with Adiaha but in a different order. I believe if children learn respect first, respect for themselves and respect for others then the next important step will be easier, To love themselves and love those around them. Value would be a side effect of the first two, and the beautiful world that they envision they will create.

]]> By: anna http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/important-traits-to-teach/#comment-2260 anna Sat, 12 Dec 2009 15:24:28 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=3933#comment-2260 Balance Balance

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