Moms - We Love YOU!7.0101This post was inspired by an article written by Janet Doman, at the Institutes for the Achievement of Human potential.  Her article touched me so much, especially around this time of year, that I had to write a version of my own...

She does not tell you proudly of all the wonderful things she has done; instead, her answer becomes a confession of all the things she feels she should have done and has not.  She looks at her to do list and doesn't see the things she completed that day, only the 50 she still has left to do.

What is the problem here?

Compared to any other group of professionals in the world, Mothers have set the most exacting standards of what constitutes "A Mother." The unspoken, unwritten "Code of Mothers" is an ethical code which no other professional code even vaguely approaches.

This ancient code demands perfection – all day, every day, from the day the first baby arrives until the day mother dies (and who knows - knowing mothers this probably extends considerably further).

The challenge is for most mothers face is to weigh what they have done with what they wish to do - but have not yet gotten to.

The issue I see here is that we mothers need a little more self-love.  Let's appreciate ourselves for what we have done and stop judging ourselves so harshly for not being superheros with magical powers to help us take care of every little thing.

When a mother is in this space of self-love she will acknowledge all of her accomplishments and realize what a magnificent being she really is!  She understands that there are not enough hours in the day to everything she is capable of and instead of lapsing into the space of guilt and judgment, she simply feels gratitude for she did do, and for that fact that she has a family she loves to do it for...

But sometimes as moms we remember to love everyone except for ourselves.  Guilt creeps in, followed by anger and frustration and it becomes hard to find the energy and enthusiasm to get just 1 project finished - forget the other 50 waiting.  Hopefully, this feeling doesn't last long and we find our way out of it.  Take a nap, go to the spa, read a book, find some peaceful space and take care of ourselves.  Because let's be honest, taking care of ourselves is an important part of the "Code of Mothers" and needs to rank high on the list in order to properly take care of those we love.

So to all you fellow moms out there, do yourself a favor and don't be so hard on yourself.  Take time to love and appreciate yourself - because I promise, once you find that place of self love - your family will notice and they will cherish that Love energy they feel emanating from you more than any of the things you "did" for them that day...
A mantra for all the mom's in the world (that also applies to dads:)) from Janet Doman:

Ancient "Code of Mothers" has "The Mother's Creed" said at bedtime: "You are the best mother your child has ever had. All things considered, you did a good job today. Now go to bed and get some sleep, you deserve it. You are going to do even better tomorrow."

And WE LOVE YOU!

Have a great Holiday Season!

Melissa