Comments on: The 10 Things Parents Do That Sabotage Their Children’s Happiness And Success http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/the-10-things-parents-do-that-sabotage-their-childrens-happiness-and-success/ Revolutionizing Education - Transforming Mankind Wed, 02 Jun 2010 14:49:35 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Patricia Abney http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/the-10-things-parents-do-that-sabotage-their-childrens-happiness-and-success/#comment-2197 Patricia Abney Thu, 10 Dec 2009 05:33:44 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=1932#comment-2197 This was very emotional to me. I grew up in a very dysfunctional home. I was told to shut up- that I was was made to be seen not heard. I was ignored. I know my parents knew I was there, but I strongly felt like I was not important in the family. I could've contributed a lot if I had the chance growing up. I deeply believed mistakes were BAD, and I did'nt want to be rejected any more than was already occuring. I feel like I'm not worth the time. I developed an eattin disorder. I'm 5'2" AND 300 pounds. I see myself teaching my son the same negative affirmations, and this deeply hurts me. Reading all the stories made me realize that I'm not alone. I can change for the better for my 11 year old son. And, I am a single mom. God is Good. He had all of the answers. Sin This was very emotional to me. I grew up in a very dysfunctional home. I was told to shut up- that I was was made to be seen not heard. I was ignored. I know my parents knew I was there, but I strongly felt like I was not important in the family. I could've contributed a lot if I had the chance growing up. I deeply believed mistakes were BAD, and I did'nt want to be rejected any more than was already occuring. I feel like I'm not worth the time. I developed an eattin disorder. I'm 5'2" AND 300 pounds. I see myself teaching my son the same negative affirmations, and this deeply hurts me. Reading all the stories made me realize that I'm not alone. I can change for the better for my 11 year old son. And, I am a single mom. God is Good. He had all of the answers.
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]]> By: Michaela http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/the-10-things-parents-do-that-sabotage-their-childrens-happiness-and-success/#comment-2190 Michaela Tue, 08 Dec 2009 16:42:44 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=1932#comment-2190 Hi. I'm reading this as a 15 year old, mainly for a school project. As I was reading I realized that if my parents were to treat me this way, and take this advice, we might have a better relationship. I am going to highly encourage my parents to read this, in order to form a better relationship between us. I thank you for all of this great advice, and I am pretty dure they will also. Again, thanks. Hi. I'm reading this as a 15 year old, mainly for a school project. As I was reading I realized that if my parents were to treat me this way, and take this advice, we might have a better relationship. I am going to highly encourage my parents to read this, in order to form a better relationship between us. I thank you for all of this great advice, and I am pretty dure they will also. Again, thanks.

]]> By: tina http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/the-10-things-parents-do-that-sabotage-their-childrens-happiness-and-success/#comment-2105 tina Fri, 20 Nov 2009 13:56:50 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=1932#comment-2105 Great article of valuable information. My only disagreement would be allowing a child's anger or "temper tantrum", without teaching them the consequences of their behavior. As a parent we can "accept" our children for whatever they might say or do in anger, but when they get into school, the same rules don't apply! When Johnny or Jane get mad and voice their "feelings" to a teacher, they are going to end up in trouble! I believe if all the advocates, counselors or whomever is providing parents with advice on good parenting skills, and want to make a difference in the World....they need to be working with the schools. It is one thing for a child to show his/her anger at home, where they are loved, but what happens when they do it in a classroom and are humiliated by a teacher? Great article of valuable information. My only disagreement would be allowing a child's anger or "temper tantrum", without teaching them the consequences of their behavior. As a parent we can "accept" our children for whatever they might say or do in anger, but when they get into school, the same rules don't apply! When Johnny or Jane get mad and voice their "feelings" to a teacher, they are going to end up in trouble! I believe if all the advocates, counselors or whomever is providing parents with advice on good parenting skills, and want to make a difference in the World....they need to be working with the schools. It is one thing for a child to show his/her anger at home, where they are loved, but what happens when they do it in a classroom and are humiliated by a teacher?

]]> By: dewaynewilliams http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/the-10-things-parents-do-that-sabotage-their-childrens-happiness-and-success/#comment-2068 dewaynewilliams Thu, 12 Nov 2009 00:20:35 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=1932#comment-2068 I enjoyed the article and I would be glad to recommend these tips for young parents because like you say our kids are suffering tremendously. I enjoyed the article and I would be glad to recommend these tips for young parents because like you say our kids are suffering tremendously.

]]> By: Conscious Parenting - Webinar by Shelly Lefkoe http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/the-10-things-parents-do-that-sabotage-their-childrens-happiness-and-success/#comment-1913 Conscious Parenting - Webinar by Shelly Lefkoe Mon, 26 Oct 2009 09:01:12 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=1932#comment-1913 [...] http://blog.projectgifted.com/2009/08/20/the-10-things-parents-do-that-sabotage-their-childrens-happ... Please share this:                                 [...] [...] http://blog.projectgifted.com/2009/08/20/the-10-things-parents-do-that-sabotage-their-childrens-happ... Please share this:                                 [...]

]]> By: UPDATED: Share Your Parenting Tip – The Best Tip Wins A Prize! | Project GiftED - Revolutionizing Education, Transforming Mankind http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/the-10-things-parents-do-that-sabotage-their-childrens-happiness-and-success/#comment-1750 UPDATED: Share Your Parenting Tip – The Best Tip Wins A Prize! | Project GiftED - Revolutionizing Education, Transforming Mankind Wed, 07 Oct 2009 07:12:48 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=1932#comment-1750 [...] of Chicken Soup for the Soul's Effective Parenting and you probably remember her for the article The 10 Things Parents Do That Sabotage Their Children’s Happiness And Success. I have had read her work and had numerous personal consultations (which I will tell you about [...] [...] of Chicken Soup for the Soul's Effective Parenting and you probably remember her for the article The 10 Things Parents Do That Sabotage Their Children’s Happiness And Success. I have had read her work and had numerous personal consultations (which I will tell you about [...]

]]> By: Novie http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/the-10-things-parents-do-that-sabotage-their-childrens-happiness-and-success/#comment-1598 Novie Thu, 24 Sep 2009 23:14:32 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=1932#comment-1598 This was some wonderful insight. It's actually beneficial for dealing with people regardless of age if you make minor adjustments. As for God in the schools, if people really read the Bible, it's a handbook for protection for God's people. He is a loving God, a Father who wants the best for His children, much like parents want for their own kids. There are wonderful, insightful lessons the Bible teaches. The Bible is NOT condemning. EVERYTHING you experience in life is in the Bible. There is nothing new under the sun. I'm sorry to hear, AMY K, that you don't know that God. This was some wonderful insight. It's actually beneficial for dealing with people regardless of age if you make minor adjustments.

As for God in the schools, if people really read the Bible, it's a handbook for protection for God's people. He is a loving God, a Father who wants the best for His children, much like parents want for their own kids.

There are wonderful, insightful lessons the Bible teaches. The Bible is NOT condemning. EVERYTHING you experience in life is in the Bible. There is nothing new under the sun. I'm sorry to hear, AMY K, that you don't know that God.

]]> By: How Will Your Child Remember You? | Project GiftED - Revolutionizing Education, Transforming Mankind http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/the-10-things-parents-do-that-sabotage-their-childrens-happiness-and-success/#comment-1565 How Will Your Child Remember You? | Project GiftED - Revolutionizing Education, Transforming Mankind Fri, 18 Sep 2009 04:22:25 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=1932#comment-1565 [...] I asked my friend Shelly Lefkoe, author of Chicken Soup for the Parenting Soul, “Am I being stupid? Am I being too concerned about spending time with my son to the point [...] [...] I asked my friend Shelly Lefkoe, author of Chicken Soup for the Parenting Soul, “Am I being stupid? Am I being too concerned about spending time with my son to the point [...]

]]> By: Stephan http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/the-10-things-parents-do-that-sabotage-their-childrens-happiness-and-success/#comment-1561 Stephan Mon, 14 Sep 2009 02:38:35 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=1932#comment-1561 Hey Sonja, that was actually a 'Debra' that made that comment - who is 'Barbra'? And Debra was right - nothing of the entire article had the slightest bit to do with the Judeo-Christian God (or any other fictitious figure) and "His" useless/detrimental place in the school system. And the Biblical spiritual father of Christ, God the Father, was all of those things Debra mentioned. If you don't know that I suggest you actually read the Old Testament. God himself admits to jealousy and even regrets making mankind. Would you tell your kids you regretted making them and then drown them all? God did. Hey Sonja, that was actually a 'Debra' that made that comment - who is 'Barbra'?

And Debra was right - nothing of the entire article had the slightest bit to do with the Judeo-Christian God (or any other fictitious figure) and "His" useless/detrimental place in the school system. And the Biblical spiritual father of Christ, God the Father, was all of those things Debra mentioned. If you don't know that I suggest you actually read the Old Testament. God himself admits to jealousy and even regrets making mankind. Would you tell your kids you regretted making them and then drown them all? God did.

]]> By: Brittany http://www.projectgifted.com/blog/the-10-things-parents-do-that-sabotage-their-childrens-happiness-and-success/#comment-1524 Brittany Fri, 11 Sep 2009 00:00:43 +0000 http://blog.projectgifted.com/?p=1932#comment-1524 This was fantastic! Your insights were both profound and practical. I loved the nuisances you brought to life and I believe people can easily make these subtle changes to transform the way they parent. These tips are simple, yet I feel that they will make a great deal of difference. Thanks! This was fantastic! Your insights were both profound and practical. I loved the nuisances you brought to life and I believe people can easily make these subtle changes to transform the way they parent. These tips are simple, yet I feel that they will make a great deal of difference. Thanks!

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